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Monday, December 31, 2007
CHRISTMAS PAST
I just wanted to share some of the memories of this holiday season. It started with a wonderful breakfast with my dear friends and their little princesses... then onto all the hustle and bustle of the season. I have a lot of pictures of my family, as they really are. There is a Santa pj party that our friends host every year.. thanks JO... and then there is Chirstmas Eve at my parents when we alllll gather. Then onto Christmas day...we hosted at our house this year... Then onto the last picture.. my friend Laura is my Teaching assistant at work. She is leaving to student teach.. I have worked with her for 3 1/2 years. I can not even express how much I will miss her at work...(My friend Jen is also losing her TA in the reading lab and we hosted a little get together at my house this past week to wish them well.
Tonight is New Years eve. We will be spending it with very dear friends. Happy New Year to all! I hope that this will be the year for peace in the world, as well as in our house. 2008 will be be bringing many changes..... all good I hope.
Tonight is New Years eve. We will be spending it with very dear friends. Happy New Year to all! I hope that this will be the year for peace in the world, as well as in our house. 2008 will be be bringing many changes..... all good I hope.
Sunday, December 23, 2007
Friday, December 14, 2007
I found this on one of my groups. It makes sense to me. I have had those "you are saving this child" and "how much is it costing you" comments... and some of my friends have endured other "unfriendly" comments from strangers and from their own friends. I am not out to save the world,only to grow my family. I only hope that when it is my turn, that my family will love our daughter as if we were pregnant with her. Adoption is soooo much harder to endure than a pregnancy!
My Adopted Child Can Hear You
12/13/07 11:01 AM
filed under: daily • logic | news
Adoptive parents speak out: Before curiosity gets the best of you - take a breath and think about what you're saying.
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International adoption has gotten a lot of attention recently with Brad and Angelina regularly expanding their family, and Madonna getting the government go-ahead this week to adopt her son David from Malawi. An article in this week's Newsweek sheds light on the difficulties, sadness, and potential devastation behind international adoption. But the challenges outlined in the article aren't the norm for most adoptive parents. Sometimes, the biggest obstacle is not the adoption itself, but the comments and questions tossed out at parents while they're in the grocery store, at the dry cleaner, or in line at Starbucks. As it takes a village to raise a child, it's the (perhaps unwitting) village idiot who feels compelled to ask stupid questions, not even considering the damage their words can do to an innocent child.
One of our own Mom•Logic Moms is in the process of adopting a baby girl and has already endured the "You're so nice to adopt a kid who's unwanted" and "That's much easier than giving birth" comments. She's now preparing herself for some of the outrageous questions that fellow adoptive parents have been asked by "curious" onlookers like...
• Why didn't his/her real parents want them?
• How much did he/she cost?
• Can't you have kids of your own?
• Watch, you'll get pregnant now and have your own kid.
• There are plenty of American kids who need homes, why did you go there?
Do you want to help someone who's adopting or has already adopted a child? Recognize that, like all new parents, they need support and friendship (and a solo trip to the bathroom)—not judgement. Here are five things you can do to make a difference:
1. Feed them. Like new parents, there are sleepless nights and a period of time where everyone is trying to get to know each other. A warm meal would be a huge help to a transitioning family.
2. Skip the daily reminder. Parents are well aware how their child came to be in their family. There are enough challenges with multi-cultural families without it being pointed out every day.
3. Let them talk. Motherhood is tough regardless of how one becomes a Mom. Adoptive parents sometimes feel afraid to share their struggles or frustrations. Be a good listener—it's the best way to show you care. It is said that 65 percent of Moms who adopt experience some sort of post-adoption depression. Keep your eyes and ears open, and help out where you can.
4. Pop the cork. When new babies are born, everyone lines up to ooh and aah over the newborn. Adoptive families are just as excited about their new addition, and it would be nice if others joined them in the celebration.
5. Give them a break. Whether your friend or sister has adopted and never calls back, or a Mom at school is behind on her bake sale duties, remember, a new child is a big change. Be kind and cut them some slack.
My Adopted Child Can Hear You
12/13/07 11:01 AM
filed under: daily • logic | news
Adoptive parents speak out: Before curiosity gets the best of you - take a breath and think about what you're saying.
Getty Images
International adoption has gotten a lot of attention recently with Brad and Angelina regularly expanding their family, and Madonna getting the government go-ahead this week to adopt her son David from Malawi. An article in this week's Newsweek sheds light on the difficulties, sadness, and potential devastation behind international adoption. But the challenges outlined in the article aren't the norm for most adoptive parents. Sometimes, the biggest obstacle is not the adoption itself, but the comments and questions tossed out at parents while they're in the grocery store, at the dry cleaner, or in line at Starbucks. As it takes a village to raise a child, it's the (perhaps unwitting) village idiot who feels compelled to ask stupid questions, not even considering the damage their words can do to an innocent child.
One of our own Mom•Logic Moms is in the process of adopting a baby girl and has already endured the "You're so nice to adopt a kid who's unwanted" and "That's much easier than giving birth" comments. She's now preparing herself for some of the outrageous questions that fellow adoptive parents have been asked by "curious" onlookers like...
• Why didn't his/her real parents want them?
• How much did he/she cost?
• Can't you have kids of your own?
• Watch, you'll get pregnant now and have your own kid.
• There are plenty of American kids who need homes, why did you go there?
Do you want to help someone who's adopting or has already adopted a child? Recognize that, like all new parents, they need support and friendship (and a solo trip to the bathroom)—not judgement. Here are five things you can do to make a difference:
1. Feed them. Like new parents, there are sleepless nights and a period of time where everyone is trying to get to know each other. A warm meal would be a huge help to a transitioning family.
2. Skip the daily reminder. Parents are well aware how their child came to be in their family. There are enough challenges with multi-cultural families without it being pointed out every day.
3. Let them talk. Motherhood is tough regardless of how one becomes a Mom. Adoptive parents sometimes feel afraid to share their struggles or frustrations. Be a good listener—it's the best way to show you care. It is said that 65 percent of Moms who adopt experience some sort of post-adoption depression. Keep your eyes and ears open, and help out where you can.
4. Pop the cork. When new babies are born, everyone lines up to ooh and aah over the newborn. Adoptive families are just as excited about their new addition, and it would be nice if others joined them in the celebration.
5. Give them a break. Whether your friend or sister has adopted and never calls back, or a Mom at school is behind on her bake sale duties, remember, a new child is a big change. Be kind and cut them some slack.
Tuesday, December 04, 2007
Just a little update. We are changing programs. We are in the process of having our homestudy updated by our agency that we used for our China adoption. We are using a different agency for this different location. As soon as I know we are in then I will share that info. As for the domestic adoption. We are still advertising in different states. The"bat" phone as I so lovingly put it has not rang since October. It is very disapointing. That is why we had to move forward with this other program..I am hoping we will have our Paige home by next Christmas. This has not been an easy journey. It is funny but as I reflect back to last year when we started this process, we thought adoption would be "easy". Boy were we wrong. However we have met so many great people because of all this, and have made some great friends too.
This week we are busy with Christmas shopping and decorating and getting out our Christmas cards. The weather has turned very cold here in New York. BRRRRRRRR.
This week we are busy with Christmas shopping and decorating and getting out our Christmas cards. The weather has turned very cold here in New York. BRRRRRRRR.
Monday, December 03, 2007
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We had our 5th annual Neighborhood Christmas Party last Saturday evening. We all had a blast. I think it gets better every year. Thanks to Trish and Jo for organizing this shindig each year.
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