What I wanted to say was "What the hell do you want me to do? she doesn't listen to us either. We are always pulling her off tables, and places she shouldn't be, and her favorite word to us is "NO""
but instead I said
"ok I will discuss this with her. I tell her no it is not OK to.....We will work on her climbing and listening"
She is a handful. I know it is the age but sometimes I just don't have the patience I used to have. It seems like she cries a lot from the time we get home in the afternoon til she is sleeping. Her tantrums are becoming louder and I swear she is gonna crack her head open when she has one. She will throw herself down on the floor and slam her head down, then kick her feet on the floor, at me, at the cabinets or whatever else is around. She is pulling chunks of hair out on purpose too, because she will look at me pull her hair then look at her hand to see how much she tore out. or
like the other day when we came out of a store and I tried to put her back in her car seat, and she was screaming bloody murder, arching her back twisting her body, and I had to hold her in the seat with all my might, that if you were in the parking lot you would have thought I was killing the poor child. I was sweating by the time I was done.. NO STOP LAUGHING_ THIS WAS NOT FUNNY!
It feels like she is very defiant these days. I hope she grows out of all this. I'll gladly take any one's advice about any of this....
Then she turns and kisses me up and she is the sweetest child in the world.And of course she is the princess and we love her so darn much.
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Oh Paigey!!!
Advice is hard b/c every child is different. I can only tell you what I do with Hayden. I seldom"ask" her, I "tell" her and she gets one warning and then goes to time out!. When we started time out I had to keep putting her back on the stairss. The first month or so I had to put her there 10 or 15 times each time. Yes it drove me crazy, it seemed like a silky power struggle, but in the end I won. She almost always stays sitting and knows until I call for her (2 min) that i will start the timer over if she gets up or cries!!! I do not speak to her, and when she is done I tell her why she is in time out, ask for apology, and then we kiss and hug and move on. Occasionally we raw right back in there 20 min later! It can be exhausting.
I also make sure I am always making it clear of the punishment with every infraction. I am VERY consistent with her being punished each time with things she is not suppose to do!!!
Again this is not really advice because all kids are differen. Mostly telling what works for us. It works most of the time H for sure has her moments, and she is VERY stubborn. I really don't give her much slack because she will tell me what the expectations are, so I know she gets it!!
I do think the school and you using the same language is a good idea:)
Good luck!! My patience runs thin often!!!!
I agree with Jules, it really depends on the child and what motivates and works for one child, may not work with another. My daughter Lexie climbs on everything and now opens doors and goes into things she's not supposed to do. I'm lucky that she just stomps her feet or tries to argue with me if I tell her "no" and usually will move on to something else. I think the best thing is to be consistent in your expectations and not to back down even though there may be a tantrum. One of my friends always gave in when her son started having a tantrum. He's 5 now and has learned to use those tantrums to get his way. It will be a lot of trial and error, but hang in there.
I am looking to see what advice you get too. Lauren is also a climber and is prone to the hissy-fit at home and in stores. I did just(this week) figure out that when there is excessive climbing and general tearing apart of the house...that she is really tired. Even though it may be too early for bedtime or a nap. I have put her in her crib to "rest". She kind of likes it. She listens to lullabies, visits wth her fuzzy friends and sucks her thumb for a little bit. I don't really want her to take a nap to close to bedtime...that would just make my night REALLY late.
Are you sure your not talking about Jacob? Especially about how he melts you away with "I WANT A HUG" after all the fuss LOL. We love you little Paige. Cousin Jacob, Aunt Tova, & Uncle Jim
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